remember when i said that we have been blessed beyond measure by our friends and family supporting us in our adoption process? yeah. that’s not just lip service my friends. literally every day we are blown away by the support of our village, and today is no exception. the way our community has come around us, and how well they understand our hearts for adoption is really unbelievable.
so. amy (lucy, as i call her….long story) is one of my very best friends. we met in grade school and have been pretty much inseparable ever since. she’s so giving, so loving, so supportive. she’s the kind of friend that shows up every. single. time. you need her. if you don’t have a friend like lucy, i HIGHLY suggest you get one….but you can’t have her–she’s mine.
thank you luc for writing these unbelievable words of encouragement for me. thank you for loving us PLergs so well, and for always being there for us. love you so much –love, ethel
here’s what she wrote:
I asked Leah if I could write a “Life Changer Thursday” for her blog. If you are reading this, you probably know what an amazing, sometimes inappropriate, but always hilarious couple Paul and Leah are. I’ve known them for about 15 years. It has really touched my heart to witness their process of adoption. I have learned so much through my dear friends about how the process of parents adopting children mirrors the process of God adopting us into his family.
I came across this article by John Piper, our former pastor: http://www.desiringgod.org/conference-messages/adoption-the-heart-of-the-gospel He outlines 8 similarities between human adoption and God’s adoption of us as his children. I’ve paraphrased the two that were the most powerful to me:
1. Adoption was (for God) and is (for us) costly.
To redeem means to obtain or to set free by paying a price. What was the price that God paid for our liberation and adoption? It cost God the price of his Son’s life.
There are huge costs in adopting children. Some are financial; some are emotional. There are costs in time and stress for the rest of your life. There is something very deep and right about the embrace of this cost for the life of a child!
We look to our heavenly Father for our joy rather than rejecting the stress and cost of children in order to maximize our freedom and comforts. Adoption is as far as possible from the mindset that rejects children as an intrusion. Praise God for people ready to embrace the suffering—known and unknown. God’s cost to adopt us was infinitely greater than any cost we will endure in adopting and raising children.
6. Adoption was (for God) and is (for us) seriously planned.
He chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved. (Ephesians 1:4-6)
God predestined us for adoption before the creation of the world. His plan was was creation, fall, redemption, adoption so that the full range of God’s glory and mercy and grace could be known by his adopted children. Adoption was not second best. It was planned from the beginning.
Paul and Leah have taken a huge step of faith that mirrors what God has done for us. My husband, Ryan, and I are not called to the “adoption option” right now, but consider it a privilege to be able to take part in what God is doing through the PLergs. I would ask you to honestly search your heart and pray about if God is calling you to do the same. Check out the link below. Encourage them, pray for them. Then be prepared to watch what God can do through us, his adopted children.